Guy Ritchie, Alex Rodriguez, Justin Timberlake, Vanilla Ice, Warren Beatty, Sean Penn, Tupac Shakur, and Jean-Michel Basquiat. Madonna has had quite a list of men. She is a dude magnet and a toy boy's fantasy. What's more, she is also a girl's girl.
In Laura Barcella and Jessica Valenti's book, Madonna and Me: Women Writers on the Queen of Pop, we read the stories of more than 40 women who have had been affected by Madonna — in sexual choices they made; material desires they harnessed; fashions they admired; and, identities they developed.
Madonna inspired because she defied the norm and made controversial normal.
If Marilyn Monroe epitomized female sexuality, Madonna glamorized female sexual liberation and how.
"I wouldn't have turned out the way I was if I didn't have all those old-fashioned values to rebel against," she said.
Not only did she challenge the societal values, she also taught others to rebel, have fun, and experience life because she believed that, at the end of the day, all that matters is the bitchiness.
"I'm tough, ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay." In fact, "Sometimes you have to be a bitch to get things done."
Bitchiness is the way to go; it gets you closer to your sexuality and your man's fidelity.
Don't we all know men marry bitches?
If you don't agree, read Sherry Argov's book, Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart.
In the book, Sherry writes, "A man doesn't marry a woman who is perfect. He marries the woman who is interesting…He is intrigued by anything that he doesn't completely control."
Indeed.
A man's perception of a woman's sexiness lies in her happiness — without and despite of him.
"Every guy knows," writes Sherry Argov, "he can find a girl who is simply satisfied with satisfying him. They are much more turned on by a woman who cares about her own pleasure as well."
In sexual discourse and relationships, altruism is a curse.
Sometimes, the pleasure is in being haughty – as Madonna is.
"Everyone is entitled to my opinion," she believed – or so she represented: a bitch who doesn't fret over failings and perceptions and places a premium on personal opinions and experiences because the way to a man's heart is in realizing self-worth, acknowledging self-love, cherishing self-assurance, and schmoozing unpredictability.
Photo: Madonna Wallpaper
